I'm in a tough situation... it's looking more and more like one of my friends has an eating disorder. Since we're both at school, I don't see her a whole lot, but I saw her a few weeks ago and was like "...OMG she has lost so much weight." and she is just soooo bony now. And not just like "Look at that girl, she's skinny!"... it's like "OMG Look at that girl's shoulder blades protruding out of her skin.".
My other friend just saw her a few weeks ago too and I finally messaged her to be like "Yo. Did you notice how skinny she's gotten?!" and she agreed that she was so concerned. But we didn't know if people at school, her family, etc. had already been talking to her about it and we didn't want to like, jump down her throat about it if people were already talking to her about it.
So we messaged her roommate and things are... bad It was so sad to hear about. She's lost like 25 pounds in the past year or so and is now under 100 pounds and she's probably about 5'4". Her roommate said she only eats 800-1000 calories a day and she works out 4-5 times a week to burn like 600 calories each time. Apparently her family has noticed, the roommate has noticed, and people keep saying things to her but it's not getting through her head. She went for her physical and the doctor said she was severely underweight and she hasn't had her period for like 8 months now because of it. And she called the doctor crazy for saying that!
I'm sorry to ramble, it's just I really don't know what to do. My friend and I are going to write something to her, because we won't be seeing her for over a month. But we're at a loss for what we should say. We don't want her to get mad and alienate us when we're trying to help. We want to be like "EVERYONE THINKS YOU LOOK SICK, NOT PRETTY AND THIN!!!" which I know is a superficial reason for her to be concerned and want to gain weight, but it doesn't sound like "You're hurting your body..." will work because her roommate's already been trying that. In the long run she's obviously going to have to tackle bigger issues as to why she's having this problem, etc. but we're so worried about her in the short run, maybe using superficial reasoning to get her to eat more than salads and veggie wraps and gain even 5 pounds back would be a good idea...